An Inadvertent Diet

scale How can you be on an inadvertent diet, you ask?  Beats me!  I wasn’t really planning on it.  It most definitely wasn’t a New Year’s Resolution.  It just happened.  It seemed a good idea at the time.  You know — one of those spur of the moment decisions.  Actually, does anyone go on a diet on the spur of the moment?  I usually think about it for a long time and then only decide to do something when none of my pants fit any longer.  You know, down to your last two pairs you have to keep laundering to have something to wear.  It’s go on a diet or buy new clothes. At this stage of my life, I’d rather spend my money on other things than replace perfectly good clothes because I can’t zipper them.  Or I can get them zippered, I just can’t move in them.  Or breathe in them.  I know a few of you are with me here.  Back in the ’70s and ’80s, I worked in the weight loss industry, so I know you’re out there.  I know how to do it, I just don’t do it.

But this time, I have to credit my real life and Facebook friend, Melissa, for putting the idea in my head.  I enjoy keeping up with her via FB and one day she posted that she was starting a certain diet  — The Dash Diet. I had never heard of it before, so I Googled it.  Okay … it seemed doable.  I immediately went onto Amazon and bought the book for my Kindle.  Actually, there are several, but I just bought one.  Then I announced to my partner, Jim, that we were going on a diet.  Jim is ready to go anywhere, so if “going” is in the sentence, he’s all in.  You know I’m really not sure when he heard “going”, he didn’t think maybe we were going on another cruise.  But diet it is.  And he’s amenable to this.

Aside from the fact my pants have become snug, it’s really Jim I wanted to do this for.  He’s put on enough weight that it’s a problem for his knees.  And when you’re our age, that can be a considerable problem.  Well, actually, any age, I guess.  And I knew if I got him on board, I would benefit as well.

The last time I went on a diet with a man was when my husband and I did it back in the ’60s (?).  I decided on the grapefruit diet and since he would eat whatever I put on the table, including that dammed grapefruit at every meal, why not try it?  At the end of that nasty week, I couldn’t wait to get on the scale to see how much I lost.  What????  Nothing????  Not a single pound?  Are you kidding me?  Then my husband got on — yep, seven pounds. He didn’t even need to lose any weight!  I hated him, at that moment.

Years later when I worked in the industry, I learned men lose faster because they have more muscle mass, therefore they burn the calories faster.  It’s just a fact of life, folks!  We women just have to accept it.

So anyway, I am accepting of the fact that Jim will lose more than me — and that’s a good thing.  I want him to be able to walk around and go sightseeing with me without his knees hurting. In the process, maybe we’ll both get off the medications we seem to have accumulated as we’ve aged.  And that will definitely be a good thing.

No — I’m not going to give you a weekly play by play of our success (or failure).  I’m a realist.  We’ve got to do this a day at a time — a meal at a time.  It takes commitment, which can waver on any given day.  And I don’t want to be one of those people who glory in telling everyone how great they are now that they’ve lost weight.  And what we ought to do and how we ought to do it.   I promise to Duct tape Jim’s mouth if he starts.  Those of you who know us will see if we’re successful.  Or not.  And we will, humbly, take all the applause you want to give us!  Wish us luck!!



My New Year Priorities

I recognize that this is the time when everyone  makes their resolutions for the next year.  I quit doing that quite some years ago.  I never kept them.  It was more like “hopes” than “resolutions”.  I don’t think I ever really consciously felt I needed to put forth the effort. And truth be told, I find one year just blends into another and things don’t really change that much — at least the things I can control.   So, creeping along in my seventh decade, I have decided to prioritize instead.

I intend to spend more time with family.  DSCN0919I have a son, a daughter and two grandchildren (pictured here at my granddaughter’s elementary school graduation) who live about four hours away.  Now I do see them on a regular basis, but I want to make it an intention, rather than a happenstance based on events I need to attend.

My sister-in-law mentioned to me recently that upon her flying into another state to visit her son and his family, her grandson said to her, “I missed you.”  And what joy and love she felt hearing that.  She lives in the same city as her other three grandchildren and provided/provides much of their childcare.  So, there wasn’t much of a chance to have them “miss” her.  So, I know how she felt.  My grandson will just out of the blue say, “I love you, Grandma.”  And my heart swells.

More laughter! I want more belly laughs.  I love laughing and it’s a way I cope.  If a situation is bad, I will find I have to make a joke.  Laughter is just so important to me.  Not just a smile or chuckle, but a real, from deep within, laugh.  This man makes me laugh……cruise 5.01.14 (3)

Listen to less gossip.  I don’t actually gossip much.  I really don’t like it.  Gossip serves no real purpose in life and can be very harmful and hurtful.  And I really don’t like listening to it much, either.  It makes me uncomfortable.  People who gossip to me don’t notice that I don’t respond.  And I feel if they are gossiping about another friend, they’ll do the same about me when I’m not around.  I want to change that.  When someone starts telling me gossip, I want to have the gumption to either tell them I don’t want to listen to it … or just excuse myself and walk away.  If they get offended and don’t want to be my friend, then so be it.

Have more meaningful conversations.  This kind of goes along with the above.  Rather than sit around talking about other people who aren’t present, I’d like to spend more time talking important issues, innovations, inventions, good things people do.   This does not include politics or religion, but advances in health, science, world events.  I want to spend more time with people who care about those things.  I miss the conversations I used to have with these people before I moved away from them.

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Is this achievable?  I sure hope so.  None of them are large things.  And they don’t require my jumping on the scale or watching my money.  It’s just what I’ve stated above … setting priorities.